I use to feel anxiety leaving my children. Okay, so maybe I still feel a tinge of guilt. The reality is we will probably spend most of the dinner talking about them. I can say that I have finally gotten to a point where I do enjoy spending time alone with "The Man" without feeling the guilt of leaving my kids. I now know that I need to embrace these times. I started thinking about it and there are a few reasons why I LOVE date night. Let me share a few with you.
2~ Someone serves me: For once I get to sit my ass down and have someone take my order and serve me! There will be no demands, screams, or yelling coming from the kids mouths. I will be able to have someone else cater to me. I won't have to move anything but my arm to bring my drink to my mouth. There will be no crumbs at my feet, no dogs drooling from the other room, and food will remain on the plate and not flying across room as I duck so it doesn't hit me. I won't have to threaten them to eat their food, there will be no time outs, and no dishes to do after! I won't have to worry about wiping faces, hands or asses. I have left that task to Nana & Pop-Pop since they seem to think their grandsons are so cute.
3~ Enjoying A Few Drinks: I enjoy a few
4~ Quality Time: Since these moments between myself and The Man are almost extinct these days I am grateful for these times. I love being around him and even though I miss the creatures it is important to take time for US. It is vital for our relationship that we have these dates to come back to where it all began; with him and I. Some day our children will not want to snuggle us, play with us, and hold our hands. Someday it will be back to him and I again, just as before they were here. I want us to be sure to take time to share with one another. To continue to work on our relationship. To remember why we fell in love and to keep that fire burning.
5~ Returning Home: After the couple of hours that belong to this date we will go and pick up our children and return home. I will never get old seeing the look on my children's face when I have been gone and walk through that door. It is kind of like the puppy who won't stop licking your face even though you just went to get the mail. I love feeling those little arms wrap around me, the nestling into my neck, followed by as many kisses I can get in before one of them swats me away.
I am not sure when the next date night will be. We tend to go several months between them, have even once gone a full year without a date. Tonight I plan to enjoy each moment of Date Night!!
Now, time to figure out what I am going to wear...
Happy Friday! How often do you do date night?
Happy Friday! I posted this same response yesterday on someones blog (we all must have date nights on our minds lol!)
ReplyDeleteWhen my youngest was born we committed to 2 dates a month. They don't always have to be fancy, sometimes they are gym dates, or a quick coffee...but in 18 years of kids we have only missed twice I think!
Happy Friday!!! It must be spring fever that makes us all want to get out of the house!
DeleteI like that you committed to two dates a month. We really need to be better about doing things with one another. It is so easy to get lost in routine. I like that your dates can be simple...I may have to take a piece of that advice from you!!
18 years and only missed twice! That's awesome!!
Crystal you have a great writing style. I love to read your posts because they are raw, honest and always true. Thanks for another great post. Hope your night out was fun!
ReplyDeleteI truly appreciate your words Natasha! When I write you can always be sure I am putting 100 % of me in it...love it or hate it!
DeleteThank you for your words!
And yes, we had a great date night! I needed that!
I love date night too, for the very same reasons you listed above (especially the someone serves me and the dressing up part). My husband and I try to get to date night every Friday. We usually don't go out, but stay in and have a quiet dinner or a movie night or game night. Anything to warrant some quality time, just the two of us. It doesn't always work, but we try to do it at least once a month. Thanks for sharing this!
ReplyDeleteQuality time is really important. It is too easy to get caught up in every day routines. I think it is important to be brought back to where it all began. I like your idea of quiet nights too. All that really matters is spending time with one another.
DeleteThanks for stopping by!!
Once a week but the last few weeks we haven't gone for one reason or another. Both if our children are away studying and it's fun to re discover each other's company.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you are due for a nice night out then!
DeleteIt was so nice to just sit and talk and BE with one another.
Date nite sounds fun :) We haven't had one since baby was born, but maybe as he gets older and maybe starts to sleep we can schedule one hehe. Great post!
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