Friday, February 27, 2015

My K-I-S-S-I-N-G Song

We are brought up around Disney Fairy Tales, Playground Songs, and stories of "Happily Ever After". There is the story of Prince Charming. Let's not forget about Cinderella looking for her glass slipper and falling in love with her price. Flynn who saves Rapunzel from the tall towers where she is kept away. Even our four legged friends Pongo and Perdita from 101 Dalmations, they too shared a love story.

Do you remember the Playground song: "The K-I-S-S-I-N-G Song" ?

Just in case you don't remember it goes like this:

(Girl's name) and (boy's name) sitting in the tree
K-i-s-s-i-n-g! (spell it out)
First comes love.
Then comes marriage.
Then comes baby in the baby carriage,
Sucking his thumb,
Wetting his pants,
Doing the hula, hula dance!

Cute huh? You most likely can recall that one. We all sang that whether it was in a group of our girlfriends or taunting another kid on the playground. We tried our best to embarrass some poor kid who had no idea what the hell love was or what trouble it would someday bring. No, we were all innocent at one time.

Some of us also play out our own Disney love stories in our minds. Over and over and over...

Love, as I have figured out, doesn't always happen in fairy tale format. My love story, well, my love story is how I believe it was suppose to happen. In some eyes it would be considered nontraditional. Some may even refer to it as living in sin. Sin, yes, I have plenty of times. But if living in sin means discovering the most incredible loves of my life...then I wouldn't change a thing.

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Jay and I met six years ago. We were friends first. If someone would have told me I would be in this life with him now I would have laughed. Hard! But back to my love story...5 years ago we started dating. I did fall in love with him right away. You know that feeling when you touch someones hand and you can just feel it. It is as if there is this hot, intense force drawing you together? Maybe you know what I mean. That is how I felt the first time we actually crossed the line of friends and did somethings as simple as kiss and hold hands.

It wasn't a fairy tale from there though. Things were not always easy and we did have a few "bumps". After a couple of months we figured out that we both wanted to explore our relationship. Things were great. No, scratch that, things were amazing! We spent our time laughing, enjoying one another, drinking, eating...then I got pregnant.

Our first son, Chase, was not planned. We were still excited and the prospect of this tiny creature coming into our lives brought us closer. Chase was born in 2011. Life as we knew it changed. No more late nights drinking and having sex. It was now late nights exhausted from our son and the thought of sex was the farthest thing from my mind. 

Still, after child number one, we decided to try for number two. We planned and after some extra curricular activities, we were blessed with another boy, Wesley, in 2013.

It has been five year, two children and finally on Valentines Day, Jay asked me to marry him. And I said YES! When I told a friend about my engagement what she said next has stayed with me:

"I think you sort of have to, at this point. Except you DON'T actually. So it says something that you did. You're kids are so lucky that you keep choosing each other". ~ Friend

No, we did not get married before we had children. Our love may not be a traditional love story. It is MY love story! It is Cinderella meets Prince Charming. Only in my Disney film Cinderella gets knocked up while trying to find her glass slipper.

Five years later I am still crazy in love with Jay. We are different than we were five years ago. We are different because we are better. We have grown together. We have learned together. We have laughed, cried and yelled at one another. Yes, I do believe it says something powerful about our love that we do keep "choosing each other". No matter what hurdle life throws at us, and with two boys I know there will be plenty, this much I know for sure:  I always know at the end of any day, that the man walking in that door is the only man that I want to grow old with.

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  1. Thanks for sharing, it's a sweet story. Mine is pretty similar, we had 2 boys born 53 weeks apart and have officially been together for 3.5 years...we knew each other casually (running in similar circles) for about 5 years. We planned the 1 st baby, not the second, but I wouldn't change a thing. Getting married, or even engaged first has taken a back seat, but I hope my love story end up like yours soon! BTW...what's been non-traditional is certainly becoming the norm (i.e. babies before marriage).

    Oh and the other thing on the K-I-S-S-I-N-G song...when I was a kid we always stopped at "baby carriage!" LOL! I never knew there were a couple more lines!

    1. 53 weeks apart! Oh you must have your hands full! I hope they are at least buddy's!
      We knew we wanted to get married. We talked about it a few times. Like you, it took the back seat. Now it is time to make it official. I want my children to have the same last name as both him and I. If I didn't have the children, I wouldn't care as much I don''t think.
      I am so glad you liked my story! Good vibes your way for your happy ending! Happy Friday!

  2. I have to laugh about the "living in sin" part - my husband and I had to live together a couple of years before we got married, because he had to divorce his wife. (I'm not a homewrecker, they were already split up when he met me and she was already pregnant by another guy!)

    At our wedding, one of the guests was a reverend. Now, keeping in mind that I had never met this man before and hadn't invited him or his family to my wedding or reception, he decided before we started eating that we should pray before the food. Ok, I'm cool with that. THEN - he wanted my husband and I to come up and repent of our sins so we could start our marriage with a clean slate! I was gobsmacked. We both flat out refused, my mother-in-law started crying.... (she's the one who invited him and his family, and I'm pretty sure the whole repentance thing was why!)

    Looking back, it's hilarious and we laugh about it pretty often, but at the time, I was furious!

  3. Beautiful story, Crystal! It's important that you do things the way that work for your life and I love that you continue to choose each other! I don't believe there's any such thing as living in sin when two people love each other. Better living together before marriage than marrying the wrong person (still possible, but much less likely!). Congratulations on your impending wedding. Wonderful and exciting!

    1. Thank you Kara!
      We have had our ups and down but we have a strong relationship and I look forward to seeing our love grow.